Tips on Choosing Your Wedding Party

Choosing The Wedding Party 

One of the first things a bride considers after engagement is her wedding party. The excitement wears off after a while, and you begin to worry about hurt feelings, people getting along, and of course, how many bridesmaids to have. 

First think about the ladies you plan to ask. Are they good friends and have you spoke recently? So what if you promised your high school bff she could be your maid of honor; it's not a binding contract. If she doesn't make an effort, or if you don't speak often, she might not take the role seriously. People you call just to talk, friends who help you move, or family are all perfect choices. 

Many brides struggle with the dilemma of hurt feelings, subsequently having someone in the wedding party that did not deserve such a spot. The truth is, it's your wedding and your bridal party so you get the final say. 

When it comes to grooms, many of them are laid back and have enough friends that they have an easy time picking their groomsmen. Men often choose their brothers, or soon-to-be brother-in-law, and close friends. If your party numbers don't even up, don't throw in just anyone, you could always have two bridesmaid per each groom, it always makes for many smiles and it takes the pressure off an awkward couple walking down the aisle. 

Make sure the group works in synergy, you will be at fittings together, and you’ll all be in the limo and at the head table. If there's an ex-couple around, or two people who dislike each other, consider why they're in the wedding party. If either one of them isn't extremely close to you, eliminate the problem by keeping them apart. If both parties are crucial to the wedding, maybe speak to them in private and ask them to try to have fun and smile, just for you. A good friend will respect any of your wishes on your wedding day.

Some couples go as far as "testing" their friends before mentioning the engagement. This is a great idea because you can see who really deserves it. Call up one of your friends just to catch up and see if they are genuinely interested in your well-being. You'll learn a lot about your friends when you start paying attention. 

Whichever way you go about it, remember to listen to that little voice in your head. Invite only the people who mean the world to you.