Engagement Party Gift Etiquette

 Engagement Party Gift Etiquette

Engagement parties are weird. Okay, so they’re actually pretty normal but what I mean is, the gift etiquette is often unknown or undisclosed, leaving guests confused as to what is most appropriate. Plus, couples probably don’t feel comfortable asking for specific gifts or price ranges; it often feels awkward.

In order to determine an adequate gift budget, reflect on the circumstances of the wedding, as well as the circumstances of your friendship. Also consider the couple and their relationship, and use that information to your advantage.

For Couples

You’ll be receiving plenty of gifts closer to the wedding, and your guests aren’t loaded, so mentioning that gifts are “completely optional and unexpected” is a great way to show you appreciate their kindness.  

Couples who would like gifts at the engagement party can mention their registry on the invitation, as a polite way to send the message “ a gift is appropriate at this party”.

Whatever you decide, don’t leave it unsaid. That’s when nobody knows what is going on, and one person spends half as much as someone else does.

For Guests

If you’re in the wedding party, you can help with the party. Maybe make a dish, buy drinks, or offer to clean up after guests leave. You can pair this with a small gift, as the couple knows you’re already spending a lot on going to their wedding, let alone the wedding shower and wedding gifts up ahead.

If you’re a guest, getting an average gift at a modest price is appropriate. It’s more important to get something that shows you know and care for the couple than to give an expensive gift. Many guests give two smaller gifts, one at the engagement party, and one at the reception. Couples are often so happy to see their guests that they’re not focused on what you spend on them.